• Don’t over-commit. If you’re entertaining, hand off as much work as possible. The more you relax, the better time your guests will have. Before you RSVP to an invitation, consider whether it’ll bring you together with people you enjoy. You’re better off not going to a party than going for the wrong reasons like guilt!

• Start new traditions. This is especially important if you’ve suffered a loss like a divorce or the death of a loved one. Instead of cooking a big meal, hit a restaurant, and then see a movie or a play. That’ll take your mind off the past and get you thinking about your new life NOW.

• Volunteer. Studies show that helping others elevates levels of the brain’s feel-good chemical serotonin. People who volunteer two hours a week aren’t only happier, they also report better physical health. The holiday season should be fun.